Confidence, Self-Esteem, Identity and Self-Respect!
For many young people in today’s modern world, the list of demands they find themselves dealing with is endless. An important benefit of my life coaching program is raising a child’s self-esteem and confidence. When a child sees that they are able to change one area of their life it makes them realize they are capable of making significant changes in other areas. In addition, our life coaching program uses physical fitness and exercising to break the ice and build a trustworthy relationship with your child.
The Main Issues I Work With Children On Are:
- Self-esteem & confidence, resilience and character
- Co-operation, Social interaction and communicating with peer groups and adults
- Stress management
- Challenging negative thoughts and beliefs
- Friendships, Anxiety and School problems
- Family difficulties, Parent separation
- Motivation and listening skills
The other benefits of my life coaching program are:
- To help them see they can change a situation where they are unhappy
- To help them fully understand the situation they are in
- To help them see that they are the only person responsible for their own actions
- To empower them to make positive changes in the way they act, think and feel
- To develop essential life skills that they need to get on in life
Style of life coaching: i use physical activities to work with the clients, these activities can range anywhere from gym workouts, bouncy castle obstacle courses and martial arts martial arts (boxing, kickboxing, taekwondo, jiu jitsu and wrestling) to establish trust, connection and a coaching relationship with the client.
The way I work with children: before my first session with a child i always have a conversation with the parents so i know what issues they would like me to address. With this in mind, in the first session i always ask the child what they would like to talk about. i feel it is important to address what is on the child’s mind first before going onto the parents agenda. The ‘parents’ issue’ is still addressed but later in the coaching process. The child may say the same issue as the parent and if they do then we start troubleshooting the problem immediately.
During the life coaching sessions i use worksheets and discussion to establish the problem and find out what the child would like to happen instead. Together we set a goal and look at ways of achieving it. We evaluate the child’s ideas and they choose the most achievable and realistic option for them to get the result they want. This solution may not necessarily be the preferred route for the parents, but by letting the child find an answer to their problem they will feel empowered and in control of the situation, which in turn will raise their self-esteem.
My sessions are lively, interactive and supportive. I help the child think creatively. I don’t just sit and listen to what they are saying but i ask questions and get the child to verbalize their thoughts and feelings. I see the whole child not just the issue they are coming to see me about and address anything I pick up on through their verbal or non-verbal communication.
The coaching setting: i work from my gym in Moncton so that children feel relaxed in a comfortable fun and friendly environment. i also do skype coaching if your child is unable to visit me for geographical reasons. Skype is a great, flexible way to resolve your child’s issues from the comfort of their own home and it is just as effective.
The duration of the sessions: my face to face and skype sessions are weekly, unless otherwise. The face to face sessions last 60 minutes and the skype sessions are 30 minutes long. The sessions are at the child’s pace and i am able to tackle the main problem the child has in the first session. There is no average when it comes to how long i will see a child however most of the children that i see will have 12 sessions minimum.
Age range: typically i work with children aged six years old to teenagers.
Confidentiality: all my sessions are confidential unless the child gives me permission to discuss our conversations with their parents or they have disclosed something to me that i absolutely need to pass onto the parents. Most children are happy for me to talk to their parents between sessions. it not only allows me to make the parent aware of how the child wants to solve the problem but the parent knows what changes they can expect to see. With the parent on my side they can talk to the child about their emotional and behavioral progress and encourage them to keep going with changing their actions/thoughts/beliefs.
